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Beginning Again

by jpserrano on April 17, 2012 · 0 comments

I find that my life is a series of restarts. I have again begun something that I really enjoy –Brazillian Jiu Jitsu.

I started my BJJ training a little over three years ago in Montrose California at a place called The Fight Forum (it is now called M3).  The very first person to show me any official BJJ techniques was Rudy Fischman.  As he went through explaining each position and giving me a basic primer I fell in love with the art and knew it was for me.

For many years as an adolescent I was a student of Kenpo, but I got tired of being punched in the face so I decided to go another route.  BJJ isn’t a striking art.  The whole point is to try to submit your opponent on the ground by bending, torquing, and choking various areas of the body with a repertoire of techniques.  So after a stint at the Fight Forum, I trained with Alexandre Novaes.  It was under his mentorship that I received a Blue Belt and a good deal of education on what works best for my body type.

Brazilian Jiu Jitsu is an art that allows me to use my body in an extreme way.  There is nothing like going full contact with someone while rolling trying to submit them and avoiding being submitted.  It’s kind of hard to think of anything else when the person across from you has one goal in mind–to tap you out.  That is why I find it cathartic, it allows me to live in the moment in a way that I seek to live off the mats.

It has been about a year since I’ve trained, but I have started again.

Newton’s first law of motion is basically,  ”An object at rest stays at rest and an object in motion stays in motion unless acted upon.”  Well, my body has not been in motion for a long time.  And because I have been so sedentary, it is very difficult to get momentum going.  I have felt petrified with concrete boots weighing me down.

In this case I am my own worst enemy.

I come up with excuses.

I talk myself out of getting off the couch.

I tell myself that I need to physically prepare myself before I go back.

I am the only one stopping me.

BJJ and I have a rocky relationship.  I take bits of time off, but I am back again.  The first couple times back are always the worst.  My body is pain, I can barely walk, and afterwards even simple tasks are a chore.  But it is worth it.

My mind is right; I feel like I can think clearer.

My soul is right; The discipline of training transfers to my spiritual well being.

My body is right; I have more energy.

So i’ve started again.

-jpserrano

 

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Theme Park Youth Ministry

by jpserrano on January 2, 2012 · 0 comments

Going on trips is a necessary part of any youth ministry. After my first couple years of taking youth to Christian Family Night at Magic Mountain, I learned that something freeing seems to happen on these trips–youth talk waiting in lines.

At theme parks young people open up in ways that they just don’t do when sitting in an office.

This applies to being in your office as well.  I’ve found that if a youth is having a hard time opening up go for a walk, clean the youth room, make some coffee, or putt golf balls with them. Basically, do something other then sit down and stare at them.

Theme parks are perfect for this.  I find that youth who have a hard time talking to me will open up at a theme park.

I’ve gotten to know youth deeply while standing in lines at theme parks more than any other place.

I talked to a couple of young people about this and they told me the reason. “There’s less pressure when we’re doing something else.” By doing “something else,” we as youth ministers are freeing them to talk and providing an environment with less pressure. By the way, this doesn’t mean that we put our listening skills on the back burner.

If you are working with youth be especially attentive during events. Youth will let you know what they really want to talk about and what you should come back to later.  We have to pay even more attention and pick up on those conversation indicators that youth throw out for us to pick up.  If we miss too many of these, they just stop trying. I’ll call up young people days after an event and say something like “you mentioned your dad isn’t doing well, want to talk about it”? Often they will.

There are exceptions to this, but I’ve found that the majority of youth I’ve worked with open up more when they have something else to do. With those exceptions, you’ll need to find a quiet place to meet.  Listen closely and they’ll give you clues that they would rather talk in private.

Fun events are great places to just be with youth and get to know them better.  But if we as youth ministers are not paying attention we could miss opportunities for deep ministry.

-jpserrano

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Liberal Legalism

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1 comment Read the full article → November 28, 2011

How to keep a Youth Minister /Pastor /Director

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3 comments Read the full article → November 18, 2011

Sin Boldly (Did Luther Really Mean It The Way We Use It Today?)

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